Out with the Old, In with the new- Part 1

Wow, its been awhile since I’ve posted on here- namely, because just a few weeks after my Grand Adventure of speaking at Ignite Tulsa, all hell broke loose in my life- on Sept. 27th, I got fired for the 2nd time in 6 months. And I went on anti-depressants the same day. And boy was I glad I did, because I was safe in my emotional fallout shelter as the wreckage of my ego fell in flaming bits outside. I will be eternally thankful for my support system- my husband, my friends, and in particular, my LifeGroup. I was angry, shell-shocked, crushed and relieved, in different turns. I was glad to be released from a situation that I felt overwhelmed by, but mortified by the fact that I couldn’t “make it work”.

Relief came just a few weeks later in the form of someone else’s misfortune- my friend S. at the University of Tulsa called me out of the blue one day and wanted to know if I would be interested/available to finish teaching a section of 3003 for a TA who had to be removed from the course, for reasons that she was not free to discuss. Mysterious circumstances notwithstanding, I was thrilled to be back in the classroom; the experience really confirmed for me that teaching (rather than non-profits) is where I belong- interacting with students, teaching them something useful and managing the assignments, grades, and being generally respected as someone who knows something, etc.

Also in there somewhere, G. & I started looking at houses to buy. So that’s been an adventure- one that deserves its own post really. Currently, we are under contract on a crappy, er not very well “kept up” Mid-Century Modern house in our favorite neighborhood of Lortondale! We are set to close January 14th, plan to do extensive remodeling in Feb and hopefully move in March. This a majorly awesome thing, and quite a way to welcome the new year!

Overall, 2010 was a bit of a mixed bag. For example, in 2010:

I went snowboarding for the first time, but fell on the slopes and goobered up my tailbone up something fierce. But I also hired a personal trainer for the first time, and can see my leg & arm muscles again; plus I got my poor, broken bum to the chiropractor (after 6 months of pain) and got my back and tailbone straightened out.  Overall health = improved.

Job situation sucked- got fired twice. Oddly, both times relieved a lot of tension in my life, and I learned a lot about what I DON’T want in a career or in a boss. The fallout from losing my income, has not actually been that devestating, because of unemployment (PTL) and also, because G. got a new job, making what what he and I made last year combined (!!). As a result, we’ve actually been able to pay off one credit card, pay off some debt to the IRS and save up earnest money for a house. Plus, our apartment has never been cleaner. So, overall financially= not bad.

Finally- I’ve been really comforted by my relationships- my family has had a rough year what with cancer treatments for my MIL and foreclosure for my grandparents, which in turn have made my own problems look very small. In addition to this, I’ve also had great support from my friends, plus made some new ones have really added a lot of joy to my life. I’m so grateful for my LifeGroup- who offered spiritual and emotional support this year in such a tangible way- hands down the best part of this year has been joining the Roby lifegroup.

So, that’s a sense of what has happened for me this year. And because I got married on the 30th of December, and have always been a bit of goal-setting nut, I tend to do a lot of reflecting this time of year. So, if 2008/our 1st year of marriage was tough (and boy was it), and 2009/2nd year was a vast improvement, then 2010/3years has been a rollercoaster, a lot of highs and some serious dips… nevertheless, I have hope for 2011. I feel like with what I’ve learned and the support that we have, that G. and I’s 4th year of marriage can only get better.

Along with reflection, comes vision casting…goal-setting, making resolutions, whatever you want to call it….stay tuned…

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  1. Mama Carol says:

    I am always amazed at your posts. Such transparency and wisdom from one so young. I am glad that you take the time to chronicle your life.
    Love you.

  2. Mama Carol says:

    Stay in the Boat! I love it. Worrying sure doesn’t do a thing for you. I am so glad you have a great church to attend that feeds you and challanges you. It sounds like you have found your “forever friends” in your lifegroup. That is how Big Vicki came to be such an important part of my life. Shared young married angst.

  3. David says:

    I haven’t seen your or G in a while, but thanks to the marvels of the internet, i’ve been able to keep up. I enjoyed reading your blogs. TTYL, love to see your house!


  4. admin says:

    Thanks for the comment, sir! You and V will most definitely get an invite to the Open House when the house mess is cleaned up!

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